A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN "HAVE" AND "BE" <3

On my last blog post I received a wonderful feedback. I thank you for that!!!

It was not just about the fact, that I had the generous chance to present my work in the magazine “Lideranço no feminino” as a supplement in the newspaper Público. Most importantly, practitioners and I, we opened up a conversation about the deeply personal meaning of our Ashtanga Yoga practice and its connection to daily life. 

Specifically, there’s this one respond, that touched me. 

In this blog post, you’ll find the eMail from Beatriz. There was just no other way to share it originally. In respect and agreement with her, I changed the name. 

In her eMail Beatriz shared with me so beautifully, honestly and purely her daily life. This alone is precious and makes me feel honoured, that she allows me in her life. 

Because, I believe so strongly in the beauty and power of ordinary daily life, of the little priceless moments of human connection among family, friends and encounters. So I also trust, that the practice of Ashtanga Yoga is directly linked to it. 


Life and Ashtanga Yoga are inseparable for me.


Besides of the many unique reasons why we engage with this practice of Ashtanga Yoga, I’ve come to experience that, through it you’ll be able to become strong in diving into your vulnerability. Strong enough, to transcend it into courage and connect purely with yourself, hence with others and play your roles not functional but rather with intention and meaning, love and care. 


I suppose, it reveals a significant difference between “have” and “be”. 


What you “have” and “do” in your life, doesn’t define you. It’s about how you engage with it. The way you act, where your action comes from and what you intend to contribute with it. 

In Beatriz’s eMail it becomes clear, in my opinion. Even though she writes, she doesn’t have much courage, I think, she represents a force of courage - in her intentions for herself, in the way she lives through her daily life, in the effort she takes care of her to be her best, contributes and serves others. 

Last but not least, I’d love to thank Nuno Filipe from Ashtanga Yoga Carcavelos, because he gets mentioned in Beatriz’s eMail too. You do so greatly. I appreciate your generosity and gentleness and clarity in your teachings. Beatriz said, she trusted me in my recommendation and you earned her trust too. It means a lot to me, because Im aware of the responsibility of teaching. Not only Ashtanga Yoga. Any teachings. Teaching is sacred! So thank YOU! Deeply grateful! 

Finally, I invite you take some of your precious time and read the eMail through. There’s so much shared wisdom, grace and humility. 

THANK YOU BEATRIZ!!! 

 

Hi

This is going to be a difficult email to write because English is not my “natural” language. Or I’m just apologise myself because I’m insecure about writing in English, as I am insecure about a lot of things in my live.
 
The context: I am 45 (almost, just a few days). I am a mother, not single, of a beautiful and supporting boy of 12 years old. And I am a working person, 8h30 to 17h, every day with 3h of commuting time. I do Ashtanga yoga twice a week most weeks, 1 time sometimes, have breaks and come back to Asthang again, lay my mat, take a deep breath and start again. From the beginning if I need it.
 
The why: some time ago I went to a workshop with you. I was the only one. I liked but I didn’t have the time to attend your classes. I was sad because of that. But then you told me about Nuno, a professor who could have a more flexible schedule for me, with later hours. I never had a men as a professor, I was a little bit concern about it. But I believed in you and I contact him and now I attend his classes. So, thank you.
 
Reading you story I can imagine the courage you needed to take that step. In fact, I can only imagine a fraction of that courage. Probably I don’t have and never had that kind of courage. So I take what I can, wake up every day, kiss my boy goodbye each morning, fix dinner, read a story because he likes it, try my best to be a good mother, pass good examples, a good wife to my very supporting husband, do my work at office the best I can and not stress a lot. This is my battle every day. Everybody have some kind of battle going on.
 
Who do I want to become? Myself, I guess. To be honest in my examples and attitudes, to be honest to myself and to find room inside me. If I can be this every day, this will be my legacy. I think it’s enough.
 
Love,
 
Beatriz

 

Through my work, Im humbled to meet such extra-ordinary people. 

I trust, you do so well in your life too. Remember yourself of it every new dawn! Count your blessings and make an ordinary day worth your breath! 

When you feel encouraged to share some insights of your story and how Ashtanga Yoga’s helped you along the way, let us know in the comments below! There’s the chance, you may touch and inspire someone else too. ONE is good enough to have a lasting impact

Or simply like this post, when you like it. 

In the meantime, I’ll see you on the mat. My teaching commitments are here! When you’d like to reach out personally, just drop me a line: roomformyself@gmail.com. Always glad, to hear from you! 

Be good to yourself! Happy Spring!  

With SOOOO MUCH GRATITUDE!

Your Stef

P.S.: When you think your friend needs to read this or may want to make "room for myself" then please feel free to share this. I appreciate it. 

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MASTER YOUR LIFE! - IS THIS SOMETHING FOR YOU?

Along my personal journey one of my greatest insights Ive gained is, that Im able to take my life OFF my shoulders and IN MY HANDS.

With given opportunities I create and I build it in integrity with my values and as a contribution to the world around me. 

Its really an ongoing process.
It's the greatest challenge, yet the beauty of life and essence of our collectivity - to discover our own individuality and suitably live it in the environment of all areas in our daily life. 

 

MASTER YOUR LIFE is exactly about this: a holistic personal development program. 

It’ll take you deep and transform your life long-lasting. 
When you allow yourself to do it. 

Developed by my dear friends and colleagues Rita Sambado and Rodrigo Maia de Loureiro in this 3-day program we'll together offer you Ashtanga Yoga, Meditation, profound Life Coaching and Healthy Food. 

You'll be ask to have a truthful look in all dimensions of your life, review them deeply, envision them clearly and plan steps to put them in action- in health & well-being, family, intimacy, spiritual life, social life, work and material world. 


Click this link below to get details about program!
It's in Portuguese. 

https://www.eus-school.com/master-your-life-6-outubro


Im SO honoured to be able to guide you through your personal Ashtanga Yoga practice within this program. 

Rita and I, we share an unshakeable trust in this ancient form of Yoga and believe strongly in the implementation of its practice in this program. 

Because it fulfils essential tasks: 

Ashtanga Yoga will let you experience your sensations and examine your thoughts through your own body.

It’s different from just “thinking” them through with your mind. 

This unique practice simply but clearly mirrors your individuality, your way of acting and responding in life. Raw and honest. And yet, it’ll hold you safe and sacred. 

The daily morning practice opens you up, makes you aware and receptive for the following tasks in the program, which you want to engage from an inner place. Also, it clears you out before stepping into a new session. 

 

Take your life in your own two hands! 
This program will run from 6-8 October 2017 with 35% off the current value.

Get it for 390€ instead of 600€! 

Don’t hesitate when you’ve got the slightest tickle, thought or sense of doing it! 
It’ll be life-changing. 

When you need to take doubts or have last questions answered, please send an eMail to: rodrigo@eus-school.com. Rita and Rodrigo will reply promptly. 

 

Enrol here! 
https://www.eus-school.com/master-your-life-6-outubro

Please share with a dear friend! 

Also, let me know in the comments below, three of your working credos, concepts, strategies  you "master" your life! What's your vision of a "mastered life"?

Im looking forward to hearing from you! 

Love & Gratitude

Your Stef

Rita Sambado and Rodrigo Maia de Loureiro

Rita Sambado and Rodrigo Maia de Loureiro

SUNDAY MORNING MOMENT

It's family time and we take it serious. Zion and I celebrate Sunday Mornings with bonding time on the mat. It's not just the Yoga that I share with him. It's him too sharing his kinda Yoga things - today there are his car and tennis ball and guess what's all around us! 

Planting the seed of Yoga can't be early enough in life - appreciation, gratitude, connection and love.

beginning of the Ashtanga Yoga Practice

beginning of the Ashtanga Yoga Practice

end of the Ashtanga Yoga Practice

end of the Ashtanga Yoga Practice

PARENTING

There is no single effort more radical in its potential for saving the world than a transformation of the way we raise our children.
— Marianne Williamson

I love Marianne's work and I believe in her words above.

I struggled for quite a time, to find my way as a mom. Or better "a way"? It began with me. Within myself. From a crystal clear reality check over who I am today to who I wish to become I understood the best way to be a mom is to be the best version of myself. Today. Tomorrow. Though tomorrow it'll feel different. But it's still me. Honest. Human. Responsible.

Raising my son has more and more become forming a relation with myself and not with my representative, forming a relation with him and between us, so it may help him to build one with him self. Strong and sold based on love, and always always with room for learning. 

The shot of me below took my son after a late summer day 2016 on our fav beach. He was three years old and showed me how he sees me through his eyes.