Wow, what a question!

Listen to this!

"Do you think, I resist to be strong?" a student asked me. 

This question was so interesting I kept pondering it for days 🤯. 

Until I saw Brené Brown's brand - new talk, exclusively produced for Netflix, released on 19 April in 190 countries and 29 languages. 

An absolute MUST WATCH, when you care for yourself, your family & friends, your work and our planet.  

Weaving elegantly and amusingly stories in her talk, Brené draws the red line of her outstanding work as a vulnerability and shame researcher. 

She's found, that being vulnerable is” the most accurate measurement of courage” and the “birthplace of joy, connection, creativity”; that you belong to yourself first and that new leadership is about embedding it into the work culture. 



Sobbing, laughing and nodding my head over Brené's talk, I figured resisting to be strong's so possible. And, that there's another way to go. 

Here's my thought stream. 

I want to think of as being strong in the sense of courage. Speak: being vulnerable. 

Vulnerable - the center of shame, scarcity, fear, anxiety,  uncertainty. 

It's saying or doing something when you don't know the outcome. 

When have you've said the last time - 
I love you first 
I'm sorry, I'll get better 
I need help
I'm scared of 
I'm feeling, that
I'm making the story up in my mind, that
I made a mistake
...

Yes, I agree. Emotions, you want to numb or in other words "resist". Right?

BUT, opening up and telling your story of who you are, that's when your courage lingers in too. These're all brave actions. 

Belong to yourself first! 
Show up! 
Grow as a human being!
Connect!
Create!
Trust, those who love you! 
Express gratitude!
Be joyful without purpose! 


You see, it creates such an astonishing human field of emotions. I understand you tempt to resist diving right into it. Yet, that's where life blossoms. Take that leap and jump! Show up! 

With my whole heart I encourage you to watch Brené Brown's talk on Netflix 🌟. Here's the trailer.

When you don't have access to it, click here to listen to her talk  "The Power of vulnerability"! Among the most five watched ones on TEDx, it'll be so worth your time.

Hit reply and share with me your most significant insight! Or comment below!

Because don't be afraid to be seen. 


With so much love, 

Your Stef


P.S.: Ashtanga Yoga's a beautiful practice to learn how to be present in an emotional moment. You'll build the strength to be courageous. Every breath you take. Reply to this email and get info about the qualities of Private Teaching or book your session! Group classes every Tuesday & Thursday 12:45-14:15 hrs at Aravinda Yoga Shala, Chiado, Lisbon. You're so welcome ❤️!


P.P.S.: Inspire your family and friends and forward this email! Get some tacos, hang out and watch Brené's talk together! 

 

A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN "HAVE" AND "BE" <3

On my last blog post I received a wonderful feedback. I thank you for that!!!

It was not just about the fact, that I had the generous chance to present my work in the magazine “Lideranço no feminino” as a supplement in the newspaper Público. Most importantly, practitioners and I, we opened up a conversation about the deeply personal meaning of our Ashtanga Yoga practice and its connection to daily life. 

Specifically, there’s this one respond, that touched me. 

In this blog post, you’ll find the eMail from Beatriz. There was just no other way to share it originally. In respect and agreement with her, I changed the name. 

In her eMail Beatriz shared with me so beautifully, honestly and purely her daily life. This alone is precious and makes me feel honoured, that she allows me in her life. 

Because, I believe so strongly in the beauty and power of ordinary daily life, of the little priceless moments of human connection among family, friends and encounters. So I also trust, that the practice of Ashtanga Yoga is directly linked to it. 


Life and Ashtanga Yoga are inseparable for me.


Besides of the many unique reasons why we engage with this practice of Ashtanga Yoga, I’ve come to experience that, through it you’ll be able to become strong in diving into your vulnerability. Strong enough, to transcend it into courage and connect purely with yourself, hence with others and play your roles not functional but rather with intention and meaning, love and care. 


I suppose, it reveals a significant difference between “have” and “be”. 


What you “have” and “do” in your life, doesn’t define you. It’s about how you engage with it. The way you act, where your action comes from and what you intend to contribute with it. 

In Beatriz’s eMail it becomes clear, in my opinion. Even though she writes, she doesn’t have much courage, I think, she represents a force of courage - in her intentions for herself, in the way she lives through her daily life, in the effort she takes care of her to be her best, contributes and serves others. 

Last but not least, I’d love to thank Nuno Filipe from Ashtanga Yoga Carcavelos, because he gets mentioned in Beatriz’s eMail too. You do so greatly. I appreciate your generosity and gentleness and clarity in your teachings. Beatriz said, she trusted me in my recommendation and you earned her trust too. It means a lot to me, because Im aware of the responsibility of teaching. Not only Ashtanga Yoga. Any teachings. Teaching is sacred! So thank YOU! Deeply grateful! 

Finally, I invite you take some of your precious time and read the eMail through. There’s so much shared wisdom, grace and humility. 

THANK YOU BEATRIZ!!! 

 

Hi

This is going to be a difficult email to write because English is not my “natural” language. Or I’m just apologise myself because I’m insecure about writing in English, as I am insecure about a lot of things in my live.
 
The context: I am 45 (almost, just a few days). I am a mother, not single, of a beautiful and supporting boy of 12 years old. And I am a working person, 8h30 to 17h, every day with 3h of commuting time. I do Ashtanga yoga twice a week most weeks, 1 time sometimes, have breaks and come back to Asthang again, lay my mat, take a deep breath and start again. From the beginning if I need it.
 
The why: some time ago I went to a workshop with you. I was the only one. I liked but I didn’t have the time to attend your classes. I was sad because of that. But then you told me about Nuno, a professor who could have a more flexible schedule for me, with later hours. I never had a men as a professor, I was a little bit concern about it. But I believed in you and I contact him and now I attend his classes. So, thank you.
 
Reading you story I can imagine the courage you needed to take that step. In fact, I can only imagine a fraction of that courage. Probably I don’t have and never had that kind of courage. So I take what I can, wake up every day, kiss my boy goodbye each morning, fix dinner, read a story because he likes it, try my best to be a good mother, pass good examples, a good wife to my very supporting husband, do my work at office the best I can and not stress a lot. This is my battle every day. Everybody have some kind of battle going on.
 
Who do I want to become? Myself, I guess. To be honest in my examples and attitudes, to be honest to myself and to find room inside me. If I can be this every day, this will be my legacy. I think it’s enough.
 
Love,
 
Beatriz

 

Through my work, Im humbled to meet such extra-ordinary people. 

I trust, you do so well in your life too. Remember yourself of it every new dawn! Count your blessings and make an ordinary day worth your breath! 

When you feel encouraged to share some insights of your story and how Ashtanga Yoga’s helped you along the way, let us know in the comments below! There’s the chance, you may touch and inspire someone else too. ONE is good enough to have a lasting impact

Or simply like this post, when you like it. 

In the meantime, I’ll see you on the mat. My teaching commitments are here! When you’d like to reach out personally, just drop me a line: roomformyself@gmail.com. Always glad, to hear from you! 

Be good to yourself! Happy Spring!  

With SOOOO MUCH GRATITUDE!

Your Stef

P.S.: When you think your friend needs to read this or may want to make "room for myself" then please feel free to share this. I appreciate it. 

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SO, LET'S EXPLORE ASHTANGA YOGA TOGETHER!

Have you already heard about the book “BRAVING THE WILDERNESS”?

It’s the fourth book of Brené Brown and it came out in September 2017.

Ever since I listened to Brené’s TEDx Talk in 2012 “The power of vulnerability”, with more than 30 million views, she’s been a counseler of mine. The results of her research work often put in words what Ive experienced, learnt and been exploring within the practice of Ashtanga Yoga and its role in my life in the last 10 years. 

And here is something Brené says in her latest book, that’s really powerful and achievable through the practice of Ashtanga Yoga.

To navigate through our lives we need: 

A STRONG BACK
A SOFT FRONT and
A WILD HEART. 

Do these words speak to you?

If you like to be conscious about yourself, your feelings, your body and issues, then Ashtanga Yoga is the way to a strong back, soft front and a wild heart. The journey about rediscovering yourself. It’s precious and brave. And, has really no end. 

Sometimes you may feel alone. 
But also, here the practice of Ashtanga Yoga will hold you safely. 
Once you’ve began to form your inner, still and sacred place, you know where to refer to. 

So, let’s explore Ashtanga Yoga together! 

Here’re the programs Im currently offering in Private and Group Teaching.

Private Teaching Ive found, it’s a very sensitive and generous way of connecting with each other, 

Besides Private Sessions Ive rolled out the small Group Program, in which Im able to bring the tools of Private teaching into the room. We’re max. 6 people and we’ll work on the elements of the practice more precisely and share the insights throughout the practice. 

 

PROGRAMS

 

CHECK-IN
This Program is a great opportunity to kick-off or refine the practice along with a Home Practice and Group Classes. They are also suitable for highly frequent travellers and citizens with multiple residences.

The number of sessions depends on your needs. For first-time practitioners I recommend a minimum of 4 sessions with 1.5 hrs.

These sessions can be booked on call and scheduled according to need and availability. 

 

BOND
This program refers to a long-term relation, that’ll help us to find your path through Ashtanga Yoga in close guidance and focus on the inquires you have along the development of your Yoga practice.  

Here, we commit to a monthly agreement with a number of sessions for a minimum of three months time. 

The practice will be done in your home, when you allow or in a beautiful place in São Pedro do Estoril or Carcavelos. 

Drop me an eMail to roomformyself@gmail.com when you're in for a close and consistent guidance in your Ashtanga Yoga practice or for a start into the practice. 

 

Over to
SMALL GROUP PROGRAM
(4-6 participants)

Structure
The set-up of Private Teaching brought into a small group.

That’s what you’re going to experience. 

  • 30 minutes Introduction conversation on one-to-one 
  • Introduction or Continuation of your personal Ashtanga Yoga practice 
  • Once a week a 1 hr guided Ashtanga Yoga class with a specific focus on the elements of the practice and your needs
  • Once a week a 1 hr Mysore Style class to enhance your autonomous practice
  • Joyous Journey Journal: Powerful writing exercises to reflect the thoughts, insights and frustrations in your practice and combining them with your daily life 
  • Introduction to the eight limbs of Ashtanga Yoga
  • Review conversation in the group 

 

Current Schedule
Mondays 11:30a - 12:30p Guided Ashtanga Yoga (1hr)
Fridays 11:30a - 1p Mysore Style Ashtanga Yoga (max. 1.5 hrs)

 WE'VE GOT THREE PLACES LEFT.

Location
Centro de Osteopatia & Yoga
Av. São Miguel 296, 2775-567 Carcavelos
In a very beautiful Yoga School. 


Last but not least, 
THE GROUP PROGRAM at former Yoga Lisboa Studio

Downtown Lisbon’s Lunch break is
Tuesdays 12:30p Mysore/1p Led Class
Thursdays 12:30p Mysore

Class Closure 2p
School Closure 2:15p

The address is: 
Travessa do Cabral N4
Red Door

 

Up for your wild heart?

Leave your thoughts in the comment section below and share your best tool to navigate through life. It may inspire another one too. 

Like and share the programs with a dear friend, who's had already a call for Yoga. 

Im happy to hear from you! 

Groovin’ it! 

Stefanie

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WRITE YOUR "LETTING GO LIST" FOR THIS SUMMER

Im a freak of lists, maps, drawings and writings of my insights, thoughts, ideas, dreams and experience in my practice of Ashtanga Yoga and life. Occasionally, I’ll go back there, read them through to have a reference to where I’ve come and how I got there. 

I noticed, it sometimes happens that I write around what I really want to say, feel and need to do. 

One of those “things” is LETTING GO. 

Im not going to write an article about HOW TO LET GO IN SIX STEPS. 
Id just like to share, what I figured. 

 

  1. It can be all sorts of, not only elements that are tangible, rational and easily visible: thoughts, self-talk, dreams, delusions, pattern, pain, people.
  2. It takes time to acknowledge. It needs to dwell within and be felt in order to get clear about what is what: For example: reality is what is and not the delusion on my mind; a pain, that Iv overcome; a dream that doesn’t fit anymore in the current vision of life. FEEL it! 
  3. Letting go arises consequences and a sense of a white space. You may call it emptiness but I prefer white space. Often, these consequences and this white space of unknown are the ones, that cause anxiety, insecurity and a feeling of not belonging and being protected.
  4. To know the vision of my life is essential: It helps me to surrender to the white space and let it fill with what servers best in this current phase. I find a good balance between action and surrender. 
  5. Courage and Curiosity are my great helpers to dare and take the leap: Courage makes me actually do it and curiosity inspires my joy of engaging and exploring a new phase of my life.
  6. Be gracious and grateful: how I say good bye is more important than the first moment, a thought occurred or a friend stepped into my life. The way of saying Good Bye truly reveals the dynamic of a self-talk, pattern or connection to a person. Letting go is as much as saying no to it as it is to say YES to myself and that Id love to do with respect, compassion and kindness.   

 

So, the other day I wrote me “Letting Go List” and very much felt without ground after. Lots of white space. Actually Im quite scared floating in it. Great thanks to my personal Ashtanga Yoga practice. It keeps reminding me, what it feels like to stay present in a position and just feel my breath and observe what thoughts, emotions arise. Without judgement. Without attachment. To then act upon my inner truth simply move on to the next pose. (If it was so easy ;)).

Gradually, Ive began to enjoy the white space and used it wisely to go ahead, to engage deeper in life and my work, to enjoy and feel adventurous, ambitious, young and open. 

An inspiring amount of wonderful reasons here, to write, draw, map your own “Letting Go List”! Share in the comments below, what you feel its ready to let go, why and how you did and are going to do it!

Summer is here! So, enjoy it with its lightness and sweetness of freedom. 

 

Talking about lightness: 
In August Zion and I will be travelling for two weeks. 

My Summer Teaching Schedule is from

1-5 August  
22-26 & 28-31 August from 7:30a - 12:30p

Group classes at Yoga Lisboa will resume in September 2017 with a new schedule. 

Drop a line and reserve your private session! Im looking forward to hearing from you!

 

 

Thank you wholeheartedly for your loyalty, trust and joy! I cherish it and it keeps me exploring, growing, changing and loving. 

Remember, when you’ve got questions, insights, thoughts about life and your personal practice, Im an eMail away. Just hit reply and write on!

An unforgettable summer.  

Your Stef

FIRST NEWSLETTER OF ROOM FOR MYSELF

The wonderful feedback I received for my first newsletter in December this year, which was plain and honest, encouraged me to share it with you too. I have not made it yet, to establish my newsletter list, so I find this way helpful to reach you. Yes, You! Here we go!

This is my first newsletter of Room For Myself. It took me an entire year. Holy cow! And, I know, that time of the year we are all very busy bees, so thank you for taking a moment to read through my words. 

I cannot believe, we are hitting almost the end of 2016. Clearly, I remember the 1st of January. With my son Zion, my sister Carolin and with close friends we spent the weekend in a wooden house in Enxara. It was a peaceful, reflective and loving time. Sitting on the fireplace, I looked at the calendar, wondering, what this New Year would bring. 

You know, deep down in my heart, I am a Believer. This year though, I knew, was going to be a challenge. Because, uncertainty is what I needed to surrender most. And this is not (yet) my strength. However, in the atmosphere of the first precious day of 2016, I could not not feel faith. 

I made my choice right after that day.  After six years teaching at the Ashtanga Yoga School Casa Vinyasa in Lisbon, I decided to branch out my work as an Ashtanga Yoga Teacher. Two month later, in March, I communicated my project about private teaching with a whisper and experienced straight away setbacks. Interestingly enough, in those dark moments I came down to 

Room For Myself - my project to help and support, people like you on their path - with Yoga in a private set-up.

On July 4, I launched the first edition of my website www.roomformyself.com and have ever been since working passionately in the field and on my business. 

The dynamic has been intense. I love to experiment and go with my process. It gives more space for joy, creativity and improvements (aka failure). That being said, I am sharing with you now my latest changes: 

I will solely focus on private teaching, creating a personal signature with the integration of coaching tools that stands out for this field as unique as you are. 

I will dedicate myself to build a network of trust with therapists, nutritionists, coaches and doctors, so that we together can help you the best way we can. Combining the ancient Yoga with different sciences, I am eager to gain new results, that help us all in our growth in a meaningful life. 

Yes indeed, it was a challenging year. A year from zero and based on truth, based on myself. Raw and pure as it can get. Sparked with so many details life can give: fear & tears, failure & setbacks, courage & strength, growth & joy, beauty & love. 

Thank you so very much for being part of it. It has been a gratifying journey.
It is because of the challenges, we are invited for a richer, deeper, more blissful life. 

I am wishing you with all my heart a loving and safe, courageous and generous New Year. 

Into 2017

Into 2017

NEVER BE YOU. PRACTICE YOU.

As a Yoga Teacher my personal practice and self-study have high priority. Together, they build the foundation for teaching. I believe, only what I have experienced, I am able to share within the tradition and to apply accordingly. 

Unlikely as it is often assumed, a Yoga Teacher actually lives as a human; someone also filled with darkness so the inner light may shine, someone also dealing with struggles and growing through them.

I am saying this, because November this year wasn’t really an easy month for me personally. Obstacle followed by obstacle. 

Funnily enough, words I wrote exactly one year ago, came across, while thumbing through my diary to look for inspiration, to look for answers. These are the words and they helped me through: 

 

Never BE YOU! PRACTICE YOU!
Observe.Live.Review.Change. 
We have the generous possibility of making choices - over and over again. 
In any given moment. 
For that, there are no mistakes. 
No completion. 
Just Learning. Letting Go.
This is Inner Freedom.
Fear channels into Courage. 
Courage leads to Action. 
Action is Joy.
JOY OF LIFE