One of my fav life ingredients


Hey there 🌟!


Morning hour in Berlin city. In casual I'm hanging on my sister's balcony looking over the skyline. 🌇


My eyes are catching skyscrapers, the "Potsdamer Platz", where the former East and West Berlin meet, the famous "Gedächtniskirche" and about five cranes while I'm curing my hangover with water and herbal tea.


Though I just had ONE glass of champagne at last night's inauguration of my friend's surgery clinic in Berlin-Mitte. Her name's Astrid, and we were bf during our university times. Longtimeago. Galp!


At this party, I met Astrid's friends I hadn't seen in ten years. The conversations circled about the classic - work, kids, and house.


Now and then my chats got crashed when somebody I didn't know, said goodbye. As an uncomfortable observant, I was patiently waiting until they'd finished the goodbye ritual. Know this icky feeling?


Fair enough. I'm not a social geek.


I decided I want to do it differently.


Taping Astrid on her shoulder about to say Good Bye, my sister got into a talk with her. And me, well I shyly glanced at the man Astrid was talking to. I smiled, looked away. Then we smiled at each other, looked away; until I took a deep breath of courage and said Hi.


We stayed for another two hours. 🥂


With Sören, that's his name; I had this conversation that totally fires me up. 


After an emotional burn-out, that's how he described it; he took turns on his life. He began the journey into his inner world, he marveled with absolute conviction. He seemed so inspired, and I just loved this vibrant energy.


Sören pointed out that he started his change with just 50. Saying he's at the beginning and yet feels super content.


And guess what, his dream is to get a surfboard in his hands and come over to Portugal.


Two takeaways I took out of this conversation: 

  1. It's never too late to unravel and take another shift in life

  2. Contentment's THE place to grow from. You need to know what you've got to allow yourself to want and desire. Anything else's greed; it seems to me.


Contentment is one of my favorite behaviors suggested in the yoga scripts.


Provided you've set the best intention for yourself, with a regular and consistent Ashtanga Yoga practice this behavior embodies within you and almost becomes a natural act in your life.


It's a sweet, quiet, fulfilled yet sturdy sensation regardless of the daily ups and downs.


That's what I call to rock a "balanced" life. To remain peaceful inside when changes and challenges in life are inevitable on the way to achieve your endeavors.


How do you think about contentment, and what role does it play in your life?


Leave a comment, because it's so worth to think about that.


Enjoy your life!


Always with love.

Your Stef.


❤️


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Room For Myself @JOURNAL PÚBLICO

This March 2018, it marks eight years of my life in Portugal. And it humbles me, that on the International Women's day of this year, my work with Room For Myself was presented among other 21 women entrepreneurs in Portugal in a supplement of the journal PÚBLICO.

I love to remember my beginnings here. 

I'd call it a labour of freedom. I went through several changes back in Berlin, discussions with my supportive friends and then there was this ONE NIGHT on the balcony in summer time. With my greatest woman friend Enne. She's got a couple of years more of an exciting life experience and she knew I was ready.

That night, we ended at 10a in the morning (Berlin's famous for that ;) ), with the sunlight in our neck and Berlin's heartbeat merged with ours. I'll never forget her encouragement, when we said good bye:  "Hau ab" (Just go!)! I went dancing the rest of this Sunday and quitted my job the next day, to leave Germany on 21 September 2009. Welcome Portugal!

The first three months from September until December were all about hanging loose, travelling, exploring, meeting people from all over the world. I felt always attracted my the energy of this country and somehow I knew, it's this environment to unfold to who Id love to be. Environment is essential. 

My experiences over the course of this special escape inspired me enough to eventually wrap up in Berlin,  drive down to Lisbon in March 2010 with a suitcase and my Yoga mat. Because, that's what I decided to do here, in Portugal. 

Dedicating my life to Ashtanga Yoga. 

My journey has been all about worthiness and belonging, inner freedom, connectivity and joy. About reinventing myself over and over again with one of the greatest learning, to commit to myself most of all. And Im sure, it this practice, that's kept me on this path - with patience, compassion and great challenges.

Though, I wouldn't recommend to just leave everything behind, I love to see women question their life, themselves, reinvent and start a new cycle. Each call is so valuable. Because that's the beginning. 

Wether it's designing a healthier lifestyle, creating more time for yourself, asking "Who do I want to become?", walking through pregnancy, finding your place as a new mom, understanding your emotions, getting to know your strength and inner beauty, establishing peace of mind, loosing weight and accepting your body - Ive learnt to trust deeply that Ashtanga Yoga can take you there and beyond. 

 

How I do help you - with my work in Room For Myself with Ashtanga Yoga?

I don't. 

I stand with you. Along your side.
All I do, I share with you this incredible, beautiful practice, hold your space, listen and take care, motivate and encourage, whilst you figure things out. And, you will!

Taking from the upcoming movie "Tully" - a story about motherhood in 2018. 
(Caaaan't wait to watch this one!!!)

"You can't fix the parts, without treating the whole" 

 

So, I'll see you?
Feel invited to send an eMail and share, what it is, that you're questioning by replying to roomformyself@gmail.com or to comment below. 

When you can see yourself here, like the post and share it with a dear friend. I'd appreciate it. 

Look forward to you! 

With so much gratitude, love & joy, 

Your Stef

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